Most of Your Stuff Is Worthless :: 3 Things You Should Be Doing NOW to Reduce What You Own


My husband and I have walked into my late mother-in-law’s house for the last time.

We are in the process of settling her estate, including the sale of her house and disposition of everything in it.

From a hutch filled with china and crystal goblets to overflowing jewelry boxes and coin collections. And everything in between.

A lot in between.

Her clothes. The Notre Dame sweaters my late father-in-law was so fond of wearing. Her furniture. Furniture inherited from her mother-in-law, still in the same place in the garage where it was originally placed 30 some-odd years ago. My husband’s Cub Scout uniform. Christmas decorations. Lots and lots of Christmas decorations.

Every room, every closet, every shelf, every drawer. Full of stuff. A lifetime of stuff. Two lifetimes, if you count my father-in-law, who passed away 11 years ago.

What to Do With a Lifetime of Stuff

My mother-in-law was a neat and tidy housekeeper. But like many of us (myself included), she lived in a good-sized house with plenty of room to accommodate stuff. Things inherited from her parents and her in-laws. The broken vacuum cleaner waiting for repair in the back of the closet. Hundreds of books read once. You get the picture.

And the cost of disposing of all of that stuff? Having the estate sale company we hired go through every room, every closet, every drawer, separating the trash from the treasures, may cost more than will be generated at the eventual estate sale.

Her house has been transformed into a store, the estate sale company having cleverly arranged and displayed my mother-in-law’s possessions on tables in every room.

All of her possessions with any value, save the very few we kept, each with a tiny white price tag.

Losing your last surviving parent is hard enough. But being the arbiter of which of your parents’ and grandparents’ treasures get saved and which end up sold, donated, or in a landfill? gut-wrenching.        

The lesson we have learned from this experience?

Most of the stuff in your house is worthless. And eventually, someone, either you or your kids, will be tasked with the overwhelming job of getting rid of it.

Most of Your Stuff Is Worthless

Most of the stuff in your house is worthless.

Yes, even the stuff you worry the most about, the stuff you think is so good you don’t use it for fear of breaking it, has little to no resale value. 

From china, china cabinets, crystal goblets, silver tea sets, pianos, and collectible figurines like Hummels, to grandfather clocks and real pieces of craftsmanship furniture.

Why? Baby boomers have glutted the market with their castoffs, and millennials, the next generation of buyers, don’t want it.

Millennials hate both formal in-home entertaining and use of second-hand goods. With looming student loans, they tend to rent and move often. Who wants to be constantly moving a piano and a grandfather clock from apartment to apartment? 

And furniture? There’s no market for so-called “brown furniture,” meaning any furniture (regardless of quality) other than the “mid-century casual” furniture (think clean, lightweight) favored by millennials. Brown furniture is basically firewood.

If it’s not in great condition, it’s also not fit for donation because it can’t be resold.

All of my mother-in-law’s furniture (including the pieces inherited from her mother-in-law and kept for decades)? Straight to the landfill.

Well, Almost Everything…

What do guns, LPs (records), and precious metals/gems have in common?

They are 3 things you might have in your house with a robust resale value.

Silverware also has value, but only if it is real silver and can be melted down.

3 Things You Should Be Doing NOW to Reduce the Amount of Stuff You Have

1. Be viciously thoughtful about holding onto sentimental items.

Here was our goal with sorting through my mother-in-law’s things. Keep just enough to remind us of her, but not so much stuff that our daughters are going to be dealing with it 40 some-odd years from now.

Here’s what we kept:

  • A painting to be displayed in our dining room
  • My mother-in-law’s treasured Swarovski crystal animal collection (all of which were given to her by her children and grandchildren over the years)
  • Jewelry to be divided among the granddaughters
  • Each of our daughters got to select 1 item

And that was it.

Well, almost. We did set aside photos to be digitized (with the originals then destroyed).

Was it hard leaving everything else? You bet it was. But we don’t want to be dealing with a lot of stuff years from now (or worse, leaving it to our daughters to deal with).

I try to be viciously thoughtful with my own sentimental items. For example, I don’t save any school papers or art projects from my kids (though I do take photos of my favorites).

2. Buy fewer books.

While used book resellers like Half Price Books do an important service in keeping books in circulation, a surprising number of books end up in landfills because many paper recycling facilities can’t process the the glue that binds book spines.

My resolution last year was to cut down on my book consumption by only reading books that I borrow from the library or purchase on my Kindle e-reader. If you haven’t used a library in years, now is the time to go back. My local library has an app where you can “order” books online, and pick them up the next day on a special “hold” shelf strategically placed next to the check-out kiosk. 

How successful was I on my resolution? I read 1 to 2 books a week in 2019, only 1 of which was a hard copy purchased from Amazon.

3. Buy fewer, but better quality, clothes

The world is overflowing with used clothing.

We buy substantially more clothing over our lifetimes than our grandparents did. 

Clothing made today is meant to last no more than a few years. In fact, a lot of clothing isn’t even made to withstand more than a few washes.

Think you are “paying it forward” but dropping off a load of unwanted clothes at Goodwill? Think again. Most clothing donations never make it to the racks at Goodwill and only about a third of what does eventually sells.

To really pay it forward, cut down on the amount of clothing you have by buying better quality clothes that last longer.

Keeping What Really Matters

My 5-year-old chose to keep a Christmas music box from her Grandma’s house. It plays “White Christmas” and has tiny ice skaters going around a rink inside. Each Christmas, my mother-in-law would bring out this music box and let each of her granddaughter’s play with it. It’s value in preserving a precious memory of Grandma? Priceless.


  1. To some of the previous commenters: Who has TIME to ‘sell things online’? Are you KIDDING? Who has TIME to take someone else’ belongings to animal shelters? This should all be done by the owner while they are able. Stuff is stuff……get rid of it. Remember the person but get rid of the stuff. Take pictures of it and be done with it.

    • I’ve had great success selling things on Craigslist, and I’ve found time to take things to donation centers and animal shelters. Different people use their time differently.

  2. Where have all the crafts(wo)men gone? I have and enjoy pieces of both furniture and china passed to me from family. I would love to have some of the pieces refinished or restored. Where can I find these people?

  3. Google NASMM (National Association of Senior Move Managers). There are people all over the country available to help you with your loved ones and their “stuff”.

  4. I’ve started over from scratch 3 times, faced severe health challenges and always done what was best for everyone else, not for me. I have not much of value, but if I have it and I enjoy it, I don’t give a fiddler’s highjump who has to deal with it when I’m gone, nor what they do with it. It’s my turn and I LOVE my circa 1940s vintage BROWN furniture. I guess it will be a very big bonfire. Get the frankfurters ready and have a roast!

  5. I agree with most of these suggestions. However, Photos digitalized? And toss out the originals? Really? I totally disagree on tossing out original photos . I am thinking of not only 8/10 studio photos but also photos taken by myself or family members. ( photo albums also). I have friends who are in their late 70’s downsizing and they are returning very nice photos to families of the picture on the photo.. For example? High School I can pass it down to my children. Every family has a historian of sort doing geneology-ask them if they would like your photos. I am grateful also to my husbands cousin who sent us three photos from her Dad’s collection. My Mother- in -law as a child with her siblings.

    I , myself, am starting to go through my belongings. I am giving whatever to my children or neices what they would enjoy. Crystal candlestick holders, Cookbooks, paintings, glass pie plates, antique little tables, items once owned by MY Mother! One of my neices keeps after me–she wants my wedding crown made with crystals. It costs double the price of my wedding dress! I would rather give away possesions to those who love them versus putting them in a sale. Not everyone in their 50’s wants their parents to ditch their possessions to Goodwill or trash it. I’ve been taking photos of items and sending them to my three daughters and neices…offering them up. So, I think it’d be great if you had mentioned offering items not only to your immediate family but also to your neices and nephews. And you are right on about Goodwill. However, there are other
    places like St. Vincent de Paul’s (who pick up items) and Salvation Army.

  6. My aunt and I are going through the same thing, but we’re making the “mistake” of keeping a lot of it, mostly memories for my aunt and kitchen antiques for me.
    I’m not shitting you, my grandparents had at least 25 different SETS of drink ware, from antique to fancy to casual to Dollar store.
    It’s overwhelming, but what I do bring home, I try to go through what I already have and get rid of stuff either by donation or marketplace.

  7. Just because Goodwill doesn’t put clothing on their floor to sell it, they re-cycle them to a shredder to make new and different things
    Don’t think they just trash it.

    • Well I was going to a funeral my husband who had dementia decided to clean out clothing and all of my kitchen. He took everything to Goodwill. When I got home and found out what he had done I went to my local Goodwill and they for bid me from even coming in the store let alone going through anything that was there. There were things from my grandmother that I cherished which I now have no longer. I will never donate anything to Goodwill. I had to call the sheriff just to get one item back

  8. We kept “My mother-in-law’s treasured Swarovski crystal animal collection (all of which were given to her by her children and grandchildren over the years). Why do we continue to GIVE people over 30 yrs old STUFF??? Usable items great! Gift of our time! Gift of stories!
    I cleaned out my Grandparents’ house. I threw away letters and pictures of my family that I had sent them, since I already had them. I gave away trinkets and stuff that he had bought a garage sales and was given by me as a small child.
    We have to get beyond STUFF! Give experiences, give time, give food!


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