Becoming a mom is an exciting but different experience for everyone. One that is filled with love, joy, and lots of tears along the way. Here is a little Q & A to show you a little about our experiences in becoming a mom.
Casey: I organized. I shopped. I read “Baby Wise.” I decorated her room. I called numerous friends. I bought a camera. I taught my mom how to use “Face Time.” I researched. I studied. I sewed. I did lots of things- the only things you can do, really. I was so, SO, excited!
Lauren: I basically talked to as many mom friends as I could. I picked their brains about everything from strollers to breastfeeding. I decided not to read any newborn parenting books. I tend to get super convinced/brainwashed by things I read so I knew that would get in the way of my “mother’s intuition”. One time I read canned-goods could be linked to cancer…haven’t bought canned-goods since (well maybe a few), but you get the idea.
When do you think the new reality of being a mom sunk in? when you got home from the hospital? after a few weeks?
C: I remember really feeling like a mom the first time I took her to church. She was 3 or 4 weeks old and I was by myself. My mom had gone back home and Gabe was already there. So I did everything myself: got us both fed, dressed, packed everything in her diaper bag, and spent the whole time debating between taking her inside in her car seat or putting her in a sling. This was a big deal to me for some reason. I had taken her out to the mall, to Buy Buy Baby, to the doctor- but for some reason taking her to church was a real eye opener. I think I was full of pride- wanting to show her off to everyone- and full of worry- germs, crying in the service, feeding. That juxtaposition, I guess, really made me feel like I was a real mom.
L: For me, it was in the hospital. After Kyler was born late at night, they took him to the nursery for a few hours, and we caught up on a little sleep before they brought him back to us at 2 in the morning. I was so exhausted, but I remember waking up to the sound of a crying baby coming into the room and thinking “that is our baby, that is our crying baby”.
What was one thing that kept you sane as a new mom?
C: Dr. Pepper. not even diet!
L: The car seat. Kyler always fell asleep in the car seat.
What were some of the challenges you met that were unexpected?
C: My sweet little Halle was basically refusing to breast feed. She loved bottles and while that was fine in the beginning, I couldn’t foresee pumping just to bottle-feed her for 6 months! She screamed and cried-I prayed, screamed, cursed and cried. It was a long road, but finally after about 8 weeks she gave in. Her Boppy pillow has one of my mascara-stained tear drops on it. I won’t wash it because it’s such a reminder of those horrible times and how far we’ve come (plus we don’t use it much any more- so don’t think I’m gross!)
L: I was totally caught off guard with breast engorgement. I had never really heard anybody talk about it before, so I was quite surprised with this strange phenomenon. It was very painful, but eventually resolved itself after about 2 weeks.
Is motherhood anything like you thought it would be?
C: Nope, it’s way better.